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Marriage is very important to our Lord. He uses Marriage in The Song of Songs to show His Love for Israel, the Church, & individuals. He sets marriage in place in the Garden of Eden. And throughout the Bible Marriage and the Family is very important to God. 


"God HATES divorce". If you are struggling or want growth in your marriage know that God is FOR your marriage. You have an amazing opportunity to get closer to God, to heal and grow in Christ, to show God's faithfulness to your children, family, and friends, and to eventually use you to help others!!   (Marriage questions answered: scroll down)  (difficult marriage?)

Many people go to a counselor but we would have you consider the following process to heal and grow in your marriage:


5 MONTH PLAN: (Do Individually the first 2 months: allows emotions to heal)

MONTH #1: DO "DISCIPLESHIP"  (9-12 SESSIONS individually). Allows individual healing.

MONTH #2: CONTINUED GROWTH (next section below 9-12 sessions):"DISCIPLESHIP"

MONTH #3: CONTINUED GROWTH  +  GET DAILY PRAYER AS A COUPLE: (sit together & be prayed for). 

                    Have a mature couple pray for you daily. You will be accountable to them!!  Also:  1-800-700-7000  / 1-866-987-7729

MONTH #4: CONTINUED GROWTH  +  DAILY PRAYER AS A COUPLE (continued accountability with a couple)

                    + MARRIAGE ACTIVITIES   Do one activity each day (and for the rest of your marriage).   

MONTH #5: CONTINUED GROWTH  +  DAILY PRAYER AS A COUPLE with spiritual couple (accountability) / phone lines

                    + MARRIAGE ACTIVITIES +  DISCERN WHAT TO DO NEXT (individual/couple's counseling &/or marriage retreat)

                    CONSIDER PRAYERFULLY: 1/1 or couple Christian counseling, Bible Study, & Christian church supporting your marriage.

When Paul says, “husbands love your wives as Christ loved the Church” (Ephesians 5:25), he is categorically prohibiting every attitude or behavior that results in a husband devaluing, humiliating, belittling, or emotionally or physically wounding his wife.

MONTH #6 (and beyond): CONTINUED GROWTH / PRAYER (couple accountability) / MARRIAGE ACTIVITIES / COUNSELING / ETC.


ALSOsee Then scroll down to "3) Guidelines for Healing". Great advice for ongoing healing. It is alright to continue with someone to pray with & support you. We need support. As you learn to walk with Jesus "DAY BY DAY" AND "MOMENT BY MOMENT" God will show Himself faithful to you. It is a life of faith. 


FACT - FAITH - FEELINGS. That's the order. We put our FAITH in the FACT of God’s Word. The FEELINGS will come walking with Him.














START BY WORSHIPING GOD. THEN PRAY THIS PRAYER: Father God, I come to You through faith in the shed blood of Jesus Christ for entry into Your presence, forgiveness, healing. Forgive me for ________. Holy Spirit, will You now fall upon me. Come fill my spirit, my mind, my will, my emotions, my sexuality,  and every cell in my body with You. Melt away anything not of You. Thank You Holy Spirit.  In Jesus' Matchless Name I pray.

Now find a phrase or verse to meditate on. You can scroll down & watch the waves/sky if you wish.


Above all else, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins. (1 Peter 4:8)

Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone.

Forgive as the Lord forgave you. (Colossians 3:13)

Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. 

Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. (Ephesians 5:21-28)

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